Big Dreams, High Fashion, and a Bright Future in a Tiny House
There is never a time in my life when I dream in black and white. Everything is always vibrant and colorful. I don't see the world through rose colored glasses anymore, but I see the world as something exciting and such a gift to live out everyday that we are blessed with on this earth.
There used to be a time, not so long ago, that my dreams were "keeping up with the Jones Family"(Whoever that family is?) It was the dreams of big house, luxury car, big hair(oh please, if you lived through the 80's you had it), and a BIG love for everything Couture with my clothes, shoes and purses. My mom has always said that she has never understood my love for purses and shoes, but I know that blood in a family runs deep and I have the same DNA as my Aunt Joyce and Uncle Jack. I am fairly certain that the DNA that they passed to me, contained a love for shoes!!
There was no end to my high end buying. I sadly thought that I needed it to help sustain my life. My closet was lined with shoes, clothes and purses of every couture line. That was how I was, like it or leave it?! Did it make me a bad person for wanting and having all of those things? Absolutely not, but to my worth and thankfulness, I am different today!
My first big change came in September 2008. Lamar was working out of town and while working, he fell from a ladder and broke his right arm in 2 places and his left knee in 2 places. He had some broken ribs and his body was bruised from head to toe. At the time it happened, it was a huge traumatic event. Looking back on it now, it could have ended a lot worse than it did.
When traumas happen in your life, you step back and re-evaluate everything, big or small, in your life. At least that was the case with me & Lamar.
Through months of physical therapy, he regained 85% of mobility in his arm and leg. He was able, to through hard work, return to work in November of 2008.
During the time of him working to walk normally again, I really woke up to my big dreams and my closet full of high end fashion. None of it mattered to me anymore. It didn't matter that my purses said coach, my shoes said Monola, what truly Mattered was Lamar and his healing. It was time for me to take a big step back and reevaluate myself and my life. After that time, everything about me changed from the inside out.
Life, over the years, has continued to be remodeled.
My spiritual life was the first major change!
Second in line was my closet. I still have nice things and buy nice things for my family, but just not excessive unused amounts. I learned to love myself and no longer felt like the things that I owned defined who I was.
That's the pattern that has continued in our lives and got even stronger after I was diagnosed with cancer. Our life is a gift and we are here on this earth for such a short time. A vapor in the wind!
I've really been touched by what Lamar and I feel is important in this life.
So many people in today's culture have found a brighter future through downsizing. People have always been caught in achieving the "American Dream". It shouldn't be the "American Dream", it should be YOUR dream!
It is time to realize that we do not know how long we have been given on this earth, but we are put here to make a difference and make this short time we have, count! To Lamar and I, its living modestly, enjoying all of our blessings.
People are realizing that its ok to be TINY! or just smaller anyway!
Disclaimer:
Everyone in this life is different and how you choose to live, is your business. It is not wrong to have nice things, or spend your money on the bigger things in life. It is all a matter of personal choice.
My point with all of this is that its ok to NOT be big! Our lives are NOT defined by the size of our house, the car we drive or the price tag on our clothes.(I hear a song here??) It is who we are, what we do with our time & money. Its us making a "BIG" difference in the tiny amount of time we have! You can live big dreams, have a bright future all wrapped up neatly in a tiny house.
My dear friend Erin and her sweet husband Mike have decided that they are downsizing. It is such a great choice for them.(my opinion) They have really prayed and know that this is the choice that they should be making. I am so very proud of them for the decision that they have made.
Here is the link to the house that they are selling!
There used to be a time, not so long ago, that my dreams were "keeping up with the Jones Family"(Whoever that family is?) It was the dreams of big house, luxury car, big hair(oh please, if you lived through the 80's you had it), and a BIG love for everything Couture with my clothes, shoes and purses. My mom has always said that she has never understood my love for purses and shoes, but I know that blood in a family runs deep and I have the same DNA as my Aunt Joyce and Uncle Jack. I am fairly certain that the DNA that they passed to me, contained a love for shoes!!
There was no end to my high end buying. I sadly thought that I needed it to help sustain my life. My closet was lined with shoes, clothes and purses of every couture line. That was how I was, like it or leave it?! Did it make me a bad person for wanting and having all of those things? Absolutely not, but to my worth and thankfulness, I am different today!
My first big change came in September 2008. Lamar was working out of town and while working, he fell from a ladder and broke his right arm in 2 places and his left knee in 2 places. He had some broken ribs and his body was bruised from head to toe. At the time it happened, it was a huge traumatic event. Looking back on it now, it could have ended a lot worse than it did.
When traumas happen in your life, you step back and re-evaluate everything, big or small, in your life. At least that was the case with me & Lamar.
Through months of physical therapy, he regained 85% of mobility in his arm and leg. He was able, to through hard work, return to work in November of 2008.
During the time of him working to walk normally again, I really woke up to my big dreams and my closet full of high end fashion. None of it mattered to me anymore. It didn't matter that my purses said coach, my shoes said Monola, what truly Mattered was Lamar and his healing. It was time for me to take a big step back and reevaluate myself and my life. After that time, everything about me changed from the inside out.
Life, over the years, has continued to be remodeled.
My spiritual life was the first major change!
Second in line was my closet. I still have nice things and buy nice things for my family, but just not excessive unused amounts. I learned to love myself and no longer felt like the things that I owned defined who I was.
That's the pattern that has continued in our lives and got even stronger after I was diagnosed with cancer. Our life is a gift and we are here on this earth for such a short time. A vapor in the wind!
I've really been touched by what Lamar and I feel is important in this life.
So many people in today's culture have found a brighter future through downsizing. People have always been caught in achieving the "American Dream". It shouldn't be the "American Dream", it should be YOUR dream!
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It is time to realize that we do not know how long we have been given on this earth, but we are put here to make a difference and make this short time we have, count! To Lamar and I, its living modestly, enjoying all of our blessings.
People are realizing that its ok to be TINY! or just smaller anyway!
Disclaimer:
Everyone in this life is different and how you choose to live, is your business. It is not wrong to have nice things, or spend your money on the bigger things in life. It is all a matter of personal choice.
My point with all of this is that its ok to NOT be big! Our lives are NOT defined by the size of our house, the car we drive or the price tag on our clothes.(I hear a song here??) It is who we are, what we do with our time & money. Its us making a "BIG" difference in the tiny amount of time we have! You can live big dreams, have a bright future all wrapped up neatly in a tiny house.
My dear friend Erin and her sweet husband Mike have decided that they are downsizing. It is such a great choice for them.(my opinion) They have really prayed and know that this is the choice that they should be making. I am so very proud of them for the decision that they have made.
Here is the link to the house that they are selling!
Another great article, Heather. You are so right!! Love, Aunt Linda
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