Dear Society, Beautiful Girls are not worth more
Lamar and I don't subscribe to the Quad City Times paper anymore. To us, it is pointless to pay for something that by the time you actually read it, is not considered news anymore. That's how it worked with us anyway, due to the sporadic delivery from our unnamed paper boy. Plus, they offer a free app that is very convenient and then I don't have to recycle either, so everyone wins in my book! Don't get me wrong, I somewhat care about our environment, but I am lazy when it comes to separating everything out.
But that is not the point of this post. I do however, miss the crosswords in the Sunday issues. Its entertainment for me and I really enjoy them. last Sunday, I was at Hy-Vee getting groceries and snagged a hard copy of the paper.
Next to the puzzle, was the Dear Annie column. I don't ever read it, but the title caught my eye. "Moms frustrated by daughters weight." I am a little intrigued. I read the letter and it made my heart sink. This is the article in my words. Well, points from it anyway.
-Mom and husband have 4 wonderful children. All successful
-Mom is upset because one daughter is at least 40 pounds over weight and said daughter doesn't care
-Daughter is the only family member with a weight issue
-Mom mentioned that daughter became over weight in college and blames it on her daughters over weight roommates.
-daughters boyfriend is also overweight and that does not help mom's issue
The advice that she asked Annie for was "Do you have any suggestions that will help me encourage her to lose weight?"
Lets hope her daughter doesn't read the Dear Annie column. I can only think if she does that it may not help the mom's case with helping her out. Is it me or am I the mom that doesn't see my child for how much she weighs? I have never judged anyone by their weight and I don't like it that our society does.
There are unreal expectations of what we are supposed to look like in this life. You cannot compare yourself to an airbrushed magazine model.
Even in high school, my size 5 body would never had made the peoples 100 most beautiful people list. I was the height and the size but my body was flawed. In my eyes anyway. I am sure in the worlds as well.
This attitude comes from being taught by the world that if you are not in a certain height or weight, do not have clear complexions, then you are worthless, ugly and you have no value.
I know that what is the most important is who I am in Christ and that I love myself, but if I get emotional and quit thinking with my head, I start to feel like outer beauty is far more important than inner beauty, even though I know in my heart that it is wrong.
I abandon reason in favor of emotion.
The following is an excerpt taken from a book "Lies young Women Believe" p.72. Authors: Nancy Leigh DeMoss and Dannah Gresh
"This year I even missed a lot of school because I was depressed about how I looked. I can get so worked up about my face or my hair or my body in the morning that it ruins my whole day. My mom has to drag me to school, and I run into the bathroom to check myself out one more time before I head to class. If I can't handle it, I call her and make up something about having cramps, or whatever. I just hate that I get like this."
WOW! How many of us have been there? I know I have.
Why does this happen? Because the world is focused on the outer beauty.
Magazines show everyone at their best, until it comes to being able to catch them in a not so glamorous light. When Kim Kardashian was pregnant, the pregnancy was not what made the news, but how much weight she had gained during the pregnancy. (ok, so I read while I am in the check out lines)
Lamar and I have never let fashion magazines into the house because of the perfect body images that they promote. To us, it's the healthy lifestyle that is important. It's the choices you make on what and how much you put into your mouth/body.
Being over weight is a constant criticism in our flawed society. Over weight people are always judged. They are often treated cruel too. Many times not just by strangers, but by friends and family too.
People may read this and think that the mother loves the daughter so much that she is just wanting what is best for her. I don't question a mother's love for her child at all, but it makes me sad to think that in her eyes, her daughter is not living up to her standards. Girls/Women have enough issues in this life. Support is what we need. If we don't get it, we keep living in the cycle and believing the lies that the world keeps feeding us.
How do we get out of these lies?
1. Remember that physical beauty is temporary!
You can ask any older woman and they will tell you that in your 20's, everything on you stays in its place. As you age, unless you are made of silicone, gravity takes over and you no longer have anything where it used to be. It's life and that's just how it is. You develop wrinkles, crows feet, grey hair, and everything else in between.
2. Beauty on the inside is what matters most
There are many people that I have met over the years that are very pretty on the outside but that is where it ends. The inside of them is so ugly that it seeps out to the surface and it cause their looks to be distorted.
When you are beautiful on the inside, it shines throughout and it makes you beautiful!
Follow this link to a video: Video was composed by ME
https://www.dropbox.com/sc/tm97l1w63nx9elq/AADTpYo3_Va-vSeaArjb9XP9a
But that is not the point of this post. I do however, miss the crosswords in the Sunday issues. Its entertainment for me and I really enjoy them. last Sunday, I was at Hy-Vee getting groceries and snagged a hard copy of the paper.
Next to the puzzle, was the Dear Annie column. I don't ever read it, but the title caught my eye. "Moms frustrated by daughters weight." I am a little intrigued. I read the letter and it made my heart sink. This is the article in my words. Well, points from it anyway.
-Mom and husband have 4 wonderful children. All successful
-Mom is upset because one daughter is at least 40 pounds over weight and said daughter doesn't care
-Daughter is the only family member with a weight issue
-Mom mentioned that daughter became over weight in college and blames it on her daughters over weight roommates.
-daughters boyfriend is also overweight and that does not help mom's issue
The advice that she asked Annie for was "Do you have any suggestions that will help me encourage her to lose weight?"
Lets hope her daughter doesn't read the Dear Annie column. I can only think if she does that it may not help the mom's case with helping her out. Is it me or am I the mom that doesn't see my child for how much she weighs? I have never judged anyone by their weight and I don't like it that our society does.
There are unreal expectations of what we are supposed to look like in this life. You cannot compare yourself to an airbrushed magazine model.
Even in high school, my size 5 body would never had made the peoples 100 most beautiful people list. I was the height and the size but my body was flawed. In my eyes anyway. I am sure in the worlds as well.
This attitude comes from being taught by the world that if you are not in a certain height or weight, do not have clear complexions, then you are worthless, ugly and you have no value.
I know that what is the most important is who I am in Christ and that I love myself, but if I get emotional and quit thinking with my head, I start to feel like outer beauty is far more important than inner beauty, even though I know in my heart that it is wrong.
I abandon reason in favor of emotion.
The following is an excerpt taken from a book "Lies young Women Believe" p.72. Authors: Nancy Leigh DeMoss and Dannah Gresh
"This year I even missed a lot of school because I was depressed about how I looked. I can get so worked up about my face or my hair or my body in the morning that it ruins my whole day. My mom has to drag me to school, and I run into the bathroom to check myself out one more time before I head to class. If I can't handle it, I call her and make up something about having cramps, or whatever. I just hate that I get like this."
WOW! How many of us have been there? I know I have.
Why does this happen? Because the world is focused on the outer beauty.
Magazines show everyone at their best, until it comes to being able to catch them in a not so glamorous light. When Kim Kardashian was pregnant, the pregnancy was not what made the news, but how much weight she had gained during the pregnancy. (ok, so I read while I am in the check out lines)
Lamar and I have never let fashion magazines into the house because of the perfect body images that they promote. To us, it's the healthy lifestyle that is important. It's the choices you make on what and how much you put into your mouth/body.
Being over weight is a constant criticism in our flawed society. Over weight people are always judged. They are often treated cruel too. Many times not just by strangers, but by friends and family too.
People may read this and think that the mother loves the daughter so much that she is just wanting what is best for her. I don't question a mother's love for her child at all, but it makes me sad to think that in her eyes, her daughter is not living up to her standards. Girls/Women have enough issues in this life. Support is what we need. If we don't get it, we keep living in the cycle and believing the lies that the world keeps feeding us.
1. Remember that physical beauty is temporary!
You can ask any older woman and they will tell you that in your 20's, everything on you stays in its place. As you age, unless you are made of silicone, gravity takes over and you no longer have anything where it used to be. It's life and that's just how it is. You develop wrinkles, crows feet, grey hair, and everything else in between.
2. Beauty on the inside is what matters most
There are many people that I have met over the years that are very pretty on the outside but that is where it ends. The inside of them is so ugly that it seeps out to the surface and it cause their looks to be distorted.
When you are beautiful on the inside, it shines throughout and it makes you beautiful!
Follow this link to a video: Video was composed by ME
https://www.dropbox.com/sc/tm97l1w63nx9elq/AADTpYo3_Va-vSeaArjb9XP9a
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